Each day, with every new experience, kids learn important life lessons that help them develop values. As parents, these morals and values are in the back of our minds, often subconsciously, when we do things with our children like bake a cake together, make a card for a relative, help them put up a tent with their friends, or just let them play in the garden.
Breeze wanted to deeply explore moms’ instinctive understanding of values, so we spoke with 240 mothers, 20 Grandmothers, and 5 Great Grandmothers in ten locations around the world. We called the project ‘Mamma Mia’, and discovered some interesting findings.
Values are integral to each and every person and help provide kids with personal, social and cultural worth; in essence, they shape our identity and place in society. They not only guide us, indicating what is important, good or useful, but they can also inspire and motivate us.
Regardless of social and cultural differences, moms globally see the responsibility of instilling values as their personal role. Moms everywhere share a certain set of values as a bench mark for raising their children.
Narito ang iba’t-ibang uri ng values:
Mother-driven values (non-negotiable) – those we feel duty bound to instill, such as honesty (katapatan), respect for others (respeto sa kapwa), sharing and giving (pagbahagi at pagbibigay), self-reliance and responsibility (sariling sikap at responsibilidad), and respect for cultural traditions and elders (pagkilala sa kinagawiang tradisyon at respeto sa nakakatanda).
Child- and mother-driven values (encouraged) – those we feel we can actively encourage but which are personality-driven, such as determination (pagpupursigi) and confidence (tiwala sa sarili); or, those that are rewarded and reinforced, such as love and gratitude towards the family (pagmamahal at paghahalaga sa pamilya), sociability (pakikisama) and relationships (pakikipag-kapwa).
Child-driven values (secondary values) – those we feel our child will develop naturally and passively but which we can facilitate, such as creativity (pagkamalikhain), discovery (pagtuklas), curiosity (likas na pagkamangha) and imagination (imahinasyon).
When our kids recognize and understand the values we have tried to instill, it is hugely rewarding, filling us with pride and happiness.
Child-driven values such as creativity, imagination, curiosity and discovery are very important for kids’ development, but as moms, we place less importance on them. Most of these values are naturally instilled and can be stimulated or facilitated through play and outdoor experiences such as climbing trees, playing tag (patintero) or sipa (literally meaning ‘kick’, a form of sepak takraw) with other kids or just creating splashes with water when it rains.
While we may be anxious to let kids have free reign to discover through curiosity, in case they are harmed (or come home with stained clothes), play provides kids with essential experiences that shape and build character. It can also increase our own happiness and pride – how rewarded did you feel the last time your child painted a picture for you? Not only does it show they understand love and gratitude and the importance of sharing and giving, they are also displaying naturally creative and imaginative tendencies.
Ang pagbibigay sa ating mga anak ng kalayaan para maglaro ay makakatulong sa paghubog ng kanilang pagkatao.